15 June 2009
Have been having headaches since last Friday...
Whatever I eat, I will throw up..
I feel like killing myself!
I am feeling much better now..
Despite finishing work late, Beee still come all the way from Bedok with porridge, herbal tea and sourplum drinks and sweets so I will not feel nauseous.
I am so touched. (eyes watery)
I never expect he will do that... really warms my heart...
Maybe I am sick so I am abit emotional... *lol*
21 May 2009
...... ...Disappointed...
01 April 2009
He Brighten Upp my day... *smiles sweetly*
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From: Too Eric (
erictoo16@hotmail.com)
Sent: 01 April 2009 10: 22AM
To:
zi_yan82@hotmail.comShit... I got all the signs.... Only different is mine is not them but you.... Hee....
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From:
zi_yan82@hotmail.comTo:
erictoo16@hotmail.comSubject: FW: ♥♥♥13 signs of falling in love♥♥♥
Date: Wed, 1 Apr 2009 08:49:07 +0800
♥♥♥13 Signs Of Falling In LOVE♥♥♥
1. When you're on the phone with them late at night and they hang up...
but you miss them already when it was just two minutes ago
2. You read their texts over and over again...
3. You walk really slowly when you're with them...
4. You feel shy whenever you're with them...
5. When you think about them, your heart beats faster and faster...
6. You smile when you hear their voice...
7. When you look at them, you can't see the other people around
you... all you see is him/her...
8. You start listening to slow songs, while thinking of them...
9. They become ALL you think about...
10.You get high just from their scent...
11.You realize that you're always smiling to yourself when you think about them....
12.You would do anything for them...
13.While reading this, there was one person on your mind the whole time.....
01 January 2009
New Year New Start...
... Everything will be just
Fine
Lose your
Troubles and Welcome the
Happiness!HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL!
02 December 2008
OctoberI know it's kinda late.. *giggles*~ Feel loved~ Feel sweet~ Feel just so right *lolx*In my 26 years, this is the first time that I had so many pre-celebrations. Simple thoughts yet sweet. It always feel good to be remembered.
20 November 2008
June I'm taking my very first Exam this month - Marketing. *cross fingers* I hope everything is gonna be fine even though I prefer theory exam than practical ones. But I have left school for so long! Memory is failing me...
Isaac made his 2nd attempt. This time he made me a card... He is really good at his words. It is really touching... Tears start rolling...
My quote for the day: "Open wound definitely takes time to heal but weather it will leave a scar - it all lies within yourself..."
I decided that I need a break - a shopping spree! Bangkok is the place then! Eric feels that he needs a break as well so... Here we come!!! We only went to Platinum Mall and MBK cause we're not really enthusiastic over Chatuchak or Suan Lum market since they are selling almost the same things. I just wanna stock up on my bras, panties anyway...
By the way, I starved Eric for this 2 days. *lolx* I was too engrossed with the shopping and I actually forgot our meals! Worst thing is, Eric didn't even want to remind me cause he don't want to stop me from shopping. *duhz* It's only when my stomach starts to growl then I realised it's already dinner time. For these 2 days, we only had a meal a day and for consecutive 2 days, we had Burger King. *tee hee* Only on the day of departure, Eric managed to have some local food and his favorite milk tea at the airport.
Let's see what I have bought:-
8 sets of bras
7 pairs of earrings
7 T-shirts
6 bangles
6 belts
5 dresses
5 blouses
3 tube/ halter tops
3 tank tops
2 dozen of panties
2 wristlets
1 set of bikini
1 cardholder
1 necklace
1 slipper
1 bag
Is that alot? Hmm... I think I bought a tad too much of panties. *lolx*
May
It's a hectic and stressful month. I'm struggling to balance with my school work, assignments and a sudden boom at work as well. Marketing is the killer - I have never wrote 2500 words before and it is my most hateful subject. I dropped this subject when I was in ITE and now I have to go through it again without a choice! Darn it! With the help of Isaac, I managed to submit my Marketing proposal in time. In fact, He wrote the whole proposal for me. Of course I did contribute abit by getting relevant information. *geez*
Things got abit complicated between Isaac and me. He has been trying to get me but I avoided all his calls. We chatted on MSN, pour out our sourness and cleared the misunderstandings we had towards each other. But... I am still not able to forgive him...
He dropped by my office and passed a parcel to the receptionist. I have lots of mixed feelings... He has never DIY anything for me before... And he actually made a miniature of those stuffs that he used to ask me to be his gf on his first try. The monkey is actually the first gift I got him. He hoped that I can put it back in his car personally one day...
April
I did something out of impulse. I enrolled for a Diploma In Business Administration @ Kaplan APMI. Jolene is taking up that course so I thought we could have each other as companion and I need something to focus my time and attention on too.
Have been going out quite often with Eric lately. I guess he plays a part in occupying my time as well. *lolx* Eric had actually asked me to be his gf but I think the time is not right yet so we dropped this topic. By the way, he got me some cushions and gave me a personal space for my barang barang in his car. *sweeet* I bought him the baby Bugs bunny cushion in turn cause he likes baby Bugs. *heee*
At the same time, Isaac got back from his business trip. He wants to patch things up. I was in a real dilemma. There were too many things happening between us and I wasn't sure if I am able to forgive what he has done. He shared with me that he has been thinking of me and he misses my presence in the house. He believe that we can work things out and he realised that he really love me alot. *sigh* I don't understand why guys are always like that. Do they really have to wait till they lost it then they will learn how to treasure?I have been real busy with work this month as well as preparing something special for Eric. I intend to make just a birthday card for Eric but ended up with more things.
25th - I bought him a tatty bear which he mentioned that he like it before but I had Aisha to help me to bring back home first cause I'm meeting him later on. 26th - I asked my colleague to help me to place an order for Famous Amos cookie cake since she is going to Jurong Point. And since he like tatty bear so much, I decided to make a booklet on the story of the tatty bear. Gosh! I'm killing myself with time running short. *arrgh*27th - I continued with the making of the card till 1am++... *yawn*
28th - I took a cab down to Jurong Point during lunch time and collect the cookie cake, went to Popular and bought some art materials, passed by Hock Hua, so I bought him 2 bottles of herbal tea for cooling as well.
While trying to finish my month end closing, I try to finish up the card and booklet at the same time. *hurhur* Finally, task completed. I packed everything in a paper bag and have my sweater cover it up on top. I told him I would give him a treat so we decided on Central Mall for Japanese Ramen. After that we took a stroll along Clark Quay while thinking of where to go. He wanted to send me home but I refused despite being tired. We ended up at Mount Faber. The weather is humid and hot, time passes slow and I am trying to stay awake. Aww... when is the clock going to strike twelve?!! The humid weather got us so sticky and uncomfortable that we went back into car and full blast the air con. *hurhur*
The time finally comes, he don't look surprised nor happy... He seems to look more of like speechless?!
The next day, he brought all my pressies to office and his colleagues complimented that the card is very beautiful and asked where I bought it. *grin* I am so proud of myself!
30th - School starts. And I still can't believe that I actually went BACK TO SCHOOL!!!
18 November 2008
March
I am still getting over the heartache. Tears will naturally tickle down whenever people asked me about it, whenever I thought of those days. But I am very lucky, I didn't realise there are so many people who are actually very concerned about me. *touched* I really appreciate you guys who have made time for me in order to keep me occupied during this down period!
7th - It is a crucial night for me. Cause after midnight it is supposed to be our 1 year anniversary. I just don't wish to be alone. Thanks to Marv, he asked me out for dinner with Berry and his friend - Eric. And he asked me to take Eric's car, WTH! I believe both of us feel awkward. We went to Kallang for a FJC meetup where I got acquainted with a group of fun loving Spoonies. There is a part which I felt lost when we reached there. Eric left me alone and asked me to go and find Marv and Berry myself and he left immediately after he finish his sentence! Damn!
14th - Marv organised a night out with all the offshore guys at St James. We arranged to meet at the entrance of Movida. While waiting for the rest, someone caught my eye. It was Isaac with a lady whom doesn't have a good reputation. Alright, take it as I dun like her then! I wanted to go over and say 'Hi', everyone was so worried. I am cool, okiee! So I went over and he was surprised to see me, I can tell. The atmosphere suddenly become so tensed up. He dropped me a few messages that night. *shrugs* Anyway, that was a crazy night, the guys drank alot, all of us enjoyed and had alot of fun!
Angsana and Spa Resort
The Mother of Nature 
27th - To my surprise, Eric initiated the first conversation thru MSN after few weeks. He was full of crap and I was slow in understanding his joke. *duhz* He offered to show me the phones that I am interested in as I 'm experiencing some 'eerie' problems with my SE W810i. He asked me to join Marv & Ray they all for dinner that day so that he can show me the phones and he would be able to fetch me since he will be at Jurong area having a meeting. So I said Ok since there is a free chauffeur. *lolx*
February
Chinese New Year is awful! He did not invite me over for reunion dinner. He did his part and pay a visit over my place. The next day, he went to his Aunty's place with his fanily without asking me along. I even overheard his Sister asking why am I not joining! He tried to lower her volume and replied saying that she is just not going, that's all. It makes me terrible when my friends were asking me why am I home alone at his place surfing net. *sigh* I asked him why he never asked me along when he got back, his reply was lame. He told me there is not enough space to fit everyone in his car when I know there are 2 cars to fit just 5 people. Fine...
I knew something is going very wrong between us. And with this incident, we are so not going to make it. And true enough, after 2 weeks plus, he decided to end our relationship. Reason being he feels that he is not able to share his thoughts with me, not having common goals to work towards...etc. *shrugs*
We had plans, we worked hard, we made efforts... It simply comes to an end just like that. Neither can I accept nor appeal. Well, I've expected and I'm quite prepared for this to come, I'm just pretty upset with him for not trying to talk things out before coming to this conclusion.
January
I went for my LASIK surgery at Eagle Eye Centre at Mount Alvernia. I went through the pre-refractive surgery assessment and a consultation at 9.05am on the 10th. Did all the tests that are meant to assess your myopia, cornea thickness, ability to differentiate lights of different shades, retinal health in less than 2 hours. Nothing painful. I was told that I had a myopia of 850(L) & 700(R) and I can proceed with the surgery. (Wow! I didn't realise my eyesight has worsen!) Waited for Dr Theng for consultation and scheduled the surgery at 1pm. Before surgery, I was dressed into a disposable gown & cap, dilation & anethetic eyedrops were used & eyes were cleaned while waiting for my turn. Gosh, I am so nervous but Dr Theng is very assuring. He told me what will happen during the op - basically all I need to do is to concentrate on the red light and I can blink all I want. On the surgery bed, my upper and lower lashes were taped. An eyelid retainer was then placed in between the lids to prevent blinking. After which, some cold liquid were dripped non-stop for a few seconds into that eye. Then I was told that my vision is going to blackout for a few seconds and at the same time I'd feel some pressure, no uncomfy so far. Then was the part where he cut my cornea which got me tensed up. I could smell the much talked about "burning smell" from others who had gone through the experience, then he closed back the flap and the last part I liked was, he used 'water' to wash my eye which was very cooling & nice. Lastly a protective contact lens was placed in the eye, Dr Theng said this is a 'Kiasu' way of protecting our flaps. Hurhur...That night at about 8pm, Shandy the optometrist from the eye centre called to check on my condition. I was told that the effect of the anaesthesia is wearing off and I may feel some pain. My left eye vision is rather blurred due to skin abrasion and it was kinda uncomfortable. But I'm fine after a few days, eyesight is perfectly good!A complimentary gift from EEC
Total Damage: -
Lasik: $3000 for both eyes
Assessment: $120
First consultation: $80
Subsequent consultation: $50
Eyes drops + lubricants: $46
(Prices above are exclusive of GST)
15 November 2008
In another month and more, we will be counting down to 2009!
And i have wrote nothing on 2008. I'm sad to say, it's a down year for me but I'm also happy to say, luck is climbing. I will do a summary soon. I hope. *geez*
Well... the previous skin cannot be read with IE7 and i couldn't find a similar one. I guess I have to make do with this one first. *shrugs*
New skin, New start...
I hope i will be back to do some updates soon.
19 November 2007
I know I have gone missing... Have been busy with work when i got back from leave.
Everything sucks! I was being accused of not placing an order before i went on leave. WTF! I came back on a sat just to finish their 3 urgent orders and they don't show any appreciation. Feel so hurt by their ingratitude. How can they accuse people when they are not doing a good job themselves! They are so bunch of SHIT! And my supervisor just kept quiet when they brought this up in a meeting. I was like ????????!!!!!!
This is a very productive month. With this amount of orders coming in, I don't even have time to clear my on hand stuff. There is one big order which is driving me crazy! My supervisor offered to help with half of it. In the end, she asked the rest of the girls to help me out and only did 4 orders which is only like 20 out of 650items! WTH! Irritating part is... she would ask me if I have finished with this order almost everyday! If she think having to check if all the P/Ns are populated into the stupid system, to find replacement for those invalid P/Ns, to email here and there to have the price and cost of all P/Ns to be loaded in can be done in just a few days, please jolly well take over this order. I will be so glad to give her!
25 October 2007
23.10.2007 (Tuesday)I finally confronted him...
This should put a fullstop to all my doubts that I had for the past few weeks.. I always thought meeting up once a week is not alot to ask for and I have given him alot of breathing space but i was wrong. He told me that life should not be centered just among the two of us. I do understand that. He say he need to have his own time. But have i ever stop him from having his own activities? No I did not. Then why? He says he is afraid of letting me down, not able to marry me...etc. I asked him if his feelings has changed. He denied. Yeah... he answered my questions but still no conclusions.
What the hell does he wants?
20.10.2007 - 22.10.2007Happy Birthday To Me!!!
First birthday greeting is from Deardear. He dug out a bag of stuff from his drawer and gave it to me. Not much surprise cause it is a robinson plastic bag and i could guess as much what is inside. It is a whole set of perfume with lotion and shower gel. Then he surprised me with a jumbo birthday card in a shape of a bear. Special part of the card is, he made a mini card tied with a ribbon onto the paw of the bear. It is an invitation card to a 3D2N stay at Downtown East chalet with a list of programs during the stay written by him..
So... Here we go for our short getaway..
I wasn't excited at all cause we are going through the down period of our relationship. All I feel is that he did it for the sake of doing. These 3 days passes slow... we were like doing our own individual things at the chalet except for the part that we went to the arcade and play basketball, the wild wild wet. No doubt we had fun but the feeling was low. I had to even remind him to blow the candles, sing a birthday song for me before the clock strikes twelve. He didn't even bother to take any pictures which I am quite particular about this. Sighhhhhh... This is the 2nd birthday which i feel sucky.
10 October 2007
Did You Marry The Right Person?
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question.
She said, 'How do I know if I married the right person?'
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?' In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind. Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle.
In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse.
You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to
DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... because it's happening
TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.'
Think about the imagery of that _expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened
TO YOU.
Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of
EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?'
And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does
NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.
And
TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll
NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find'
LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the _expression 'the labor of love.' Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes
WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is
NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship
WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make' love.
Love in marriage is indeed a 'Decision'... not just a Feeling...
08 October 2007
It's only 8 mths! And I felt so damn sick of my job! I hate the part of chasing after people for responses and get sarcastic remarks for chasing. These people are really driving me nuts! Ask also wrong, don't ask also wrong! Damn it!
I have been feeling lousy. I borrowed Deardear's external hard disk to do some backup for my pc. And what the hell! The hard disk crashed lor! Due to some bad sector. His ex gf's Japan trip's photos are gone and he needs to burn into a cd for her which he has not done after so many months. And now i am responsible for it! Damn! It is going to cost $200-$400 to recover if we are sending it to Data Recovery Centre and there is no guarantee.
We are facing some problems recently as well. He told me that he is not able to share certain things with me because I behave like a kid. I am SO upset! That sentence really stirs my thoughts, feelings and my heart. I always thought that he can understand me but I was wrong...
19 September 2007
18.09.2007 (Tuesday)Every Tues and Wed is workout day for Aisha and me. We will do alot of running, kicking, boxing, jab, hook, uppercut, weights, lunges... etc. But somehow feel that it's been a very long time since we worked out. Maybe we don't feel the ache for quite some time. *geez*
Hey! By the way, I finally complete my 2.4km run. Wahahaha... Normally I can only finish 1.6km max. Wooo! Today is a record. Think i won't be able to continue this kind of stamina. I will die. I seriously hate running! Is there any other way to lose weight?
15.09.2007 (Saturday)
Woke up early in the morning 9 o' clock. Yawnzzz... We planned to go East Coast Park for cycling but... Here comes the dark dark clouds hovering over the bright sun then comes the rain! Duhzzzzz... Deardear checked the weather forecast for the day. Forcasted to be cloudy so we decided to go on with the plan. We went to Parkway Parade Ya Kun Toast for breakfast first. It's a super sunny day when we reached ECP! *sweat*
In less than 10mins, Deardear is exhausted from rollerblading. Haha. Lousy lousy! Still need me to pull him along. Poor me. I was badly burnt from the hot sun man. My nose, cheeks, thighs... whatever is exposed to the sun is roasted! = ( All the sweat, the sun and the ache is making me drowsy... sleepyzzzz...
Went to visit Bacon after that but he is not there. He was taken away by a prospective adopter for the day. Deardear looks sad but he is relieved that he will have an owner in future. Since Bacon is not there, we went to IKEA to have chicken wings and meat balls before he goes for his soccer game. Hmmm.. i still think WalaWala's chicken wings are nicer. *yumyum*
14.09.2007 (Friday)
Yeahhh.. It's Friday again! It will be a shorter day cause our Mission Dept is having a Open house today and we will have 2hours lunch break. Most of us finds it bored to be there cause we don't really know that dept well so we chose to go to Jurong Point and shop then. Anyway we need to get a birthday cake for Irene too.
Aisha wanted to get some shoes so we went to Charles & Keith first. I really don't plan to get anything, i just cannot resist the temptations when it comes to shoes so... In the end,I bought 2 heels. Same design as Aisha but of different colour. *lolx*
We spent too much time on shoes, i guess. Not much time left for us so we rushed over to Prima Deli to choose the cake. Well... there isn't much choices so we decided on the Belgium Chocolate Cake. After that, I went to Watsons to get some chocolates for my Deardear. He says he is depriving for some chocolates. I bought enough to last him for at least 2-3 weeks.
Back in Office. We had a mini celebration for Irene. We shut off the lights suddenly and that blur Irene thought it's a blackout. The way she try to save her documents. You should see the way she react. *lolx* (stomach pain). Hmmm... The cake don't really taste good. I didn't know chocolate cake have rum. The smell is too strong. Eeeeuu.... I am so not gonna have it again!
11 September 2007
"He proposed... Mrs xxx to be... My big day approaching..."
No no no... It's not me okieee. I have been hearing these announcements lately... *sweat* Deardear cannot understand what is there to be happy and stress over getting married.
Does getting married means you will get happiness?, he asked.
I just replied him, "You don't understand Girls =p"
Well... I think most of the girls will be looking forward to that.. Wearing an elegant beautiful gown walking down the aisle with your loved one.. Saying i do.. Having a cosy home of your own.. Lie on the sofa watching tv at ease without the disturbance of family members.. Doing house chores together.. Preparing meals or rather learn to cook together.. Leaving for work together...etc It just feel so nice... Of course, I definitely know and understand that it will b very different from what you pictured. But I strongly feel it depends on how much efforts you want to put in to make it true and real. I'm just looking very forward of a life of our own. What's wrong what's wrong??? I know he is bothered by the financial thingy, however i feel that having a new life ahead shouldn't be based on $$. It should be a lo-man-tic thingy but it has now become so realistic.
No $$ = No life?
Does that mean we cannot move on to the next stage of life without ample savings?
Awwww.... this feeling sucks! So not lo-man-tic!
05 September 2007
I learnt a new Malay poem recently.
Title composed by CIISI-IIE GII2LIE
Direct translated by CIISI-IIE GII2LIE
Pantun meow~
Dua tiga kucing berlari
(two three cats run run)Mana nak sama si kucing belang
(where got same with the striped one)Dua tiga boleh ku cari
(two three i can find)Mana nak sama cik adik seorang
(where got same with you (miss) alone)For me to know, For you to figure out!
Hehehehehehe...
04 September 2007
2.9.2007 Sunday
We went to IMM just to waste our time. Bought alot of snacks and settled our dinner at Cafe Cartel. Deardear wasn't feeling well till late then we realised he is having fever. He is having aches all over. I used some ice to help him to lower his temperature but it doesn't help. The most headache thing is he refused to see a doctor!
1.9.2007 SaturdayWe decided to try to wash the car ourselves! Gosh! That was really REALLY very tiring. Deardear is rather proud of himself since it is his first time washing a car. He keep telling me that his car is the most 'bling bling' in the carpark. But! Too bad. It rained that day...
We went to visit Bacon in the afternoon. We saw a new member next to Bacon's cubicle. It is a ChiHuaHua. Heard that the owner had abandoned him in a locked cage by the roadside. With his droopy eyes and skin problem, he looked very pitiful. So Deardear wanted to bring him out for a walk but once the gate is just slightly opened, he RAN all over the place! Hahahahaha.. And Deardear have to chase after him all over the place like a mad dog! *LOL (stomach pain)* What a sight!
After that Deardear went for soccer game at around 5plus. And I have to sit in the car with my PSP for 2 hours! We rushed home after the game to change and over to Jurong East and meet his family for dinner at night. It was his Mum's birthday. The food was so so.. Only like the duck in what sauce? Mango sauce i guess.. Sour sour with abit of sweetness taste.. Yum yum!
31.8.2007 FridayI think it is becoming a weekly thingy. Every Friday, this moi moi of mine will be obsessed with this MSN drawing. Look at what she have drawn this time - A Garden.
But moi moi! Isn't your ladybird a 8-legged insect? *lolx*
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Nature is Change and you can Change Nature... Have you ever feel that you can't cook? Well, you're wrong then. Cause ANYone can Cook! Sounds any familiar? Presenting.......................................
It has been a long long time since I watched a cartoon movie. And this movie caught my attention. I have been waiting for it till neck also grow long long. Yeah yeah! Deardear had bought tickets and we got to watch it today. I love this show. Very heartwarming. Thumbs Uppp!
30 August 2007
I really like this article alot. So... i decided to share with everyone! = )
A SOULFUL SOUL-SEARCHING RELATIONSHIPIf you're not married yet, share this with a friend.
If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples and reflect on it.
An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."
Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone,don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important.
Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you.
You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs,values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths.
Neither of you are prefect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other,or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
You can't take someone to the altar to altar him or her.
You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.
If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship!
Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.
What keeps a relationship strong?
- Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing householdtasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice message on the voicemail or send a nice email. Share common goals and interests.
- Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interests. You can't always be together.
- Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another.
- Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless.
- Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer.
If these qualities are missing,the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.
The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the i.
27 August 2007
Look at how bored Aisha and I were last Friday on MSN.. But it is nice isn't it? Haha...
24 August 2007
Just got back from 2 days MC but still not very well. I am feeling so so sick and weak. Have been running in and out of toilet to puke. Awwwwww... The medicine is definitely not working! It is making me feeling more giddy and nauseous. But... you know what? I can fit into my new jeans! Haha... "The UnOrthodox way of slimming".
My eyes are swollen today. VERY swollen. Alot of questions running in my head last night, it makes me feel even more giddy. And what is new? Unneccessary and unreasonable arguements have taken place much too often lately. And this time, it really upsets me a little too much. I feel so sour and bitter deep in my heart. I don't understand, and I really don't understand what is going on! Have he changed? Or am I the one? Or has this relationship turned stale?
I really do miss our usual 'dialogue' session...
Back to Office.
It is real quiet today. Aisha and I can hear each other typing away. She can even hear me giggling at the other corner. Maybe it's month end closing, everyone is busy with their work OR.. the Principal is back, cannot 'pray pray' already. Kaka. Just submitted my current jobscope to her. Hmmm.. don't know what kind of changes there will be. *cross fingers*
Alright... Time to get back to serious work!
21 August 2007
It's been at least 3 years since i said i wanna start a blog. And yup! I finally got my bloggie up running. Hee.. It is so hard to get a blogskin that is sweet and spacious enough to see what you're writing. I really love the current blogskin, so sweeeeeeeeeeeeet!
Ehhhhhhh... My mind is in a blank now. Half of the year has passed, definitely there is alot of things going on all these while. But... Where and how to start? *knit eyebrow
Hmmmm... well...
To be continued then...
Aisha wanted to get some shoes so we went to Charles & Keith first. I really don't plan to get anything, i just cannot resist the temptations when it comes to shoes so... In the end,I bought 2 heels. Same design as Aisha but of different colour. *lolx*
